“As a wife and a mother, Samantha lives with her joyful one year-old baby boy and her husband in the suburbs of Chicago. By day she works full-time in sales, and by night she continues her quest to pamper herself by exercising and indulging in beauty routines that transport her back to the sprightly age of 29. She enjoys lingering with floofy magazines that use personal pronouns in their titles, is focused on Green issues, and has never met a potato she didn’t like. Samantha can also be found toiling away on her personal blog, Back to Me”
I’m a planner. So when we decided to get pregnant I knew that there was only so much I could prepare for and the rest would be out of my hands. It was hard, but I did learn to go with the flow. My pregnancy was uneventful and everything was right on the mark until I hit 30 weeks and 5 days. That’s when I went into labor.
2). A full bladder could cause contractions, so he wanted me to keep going to the bathroom. (Not a problem being 30 weeks pregnant I’ll tell you that!)
3). He of course wanted me laying on my left side so the baby would have as much un-restricted blood flow as possible (http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/sleepingpositions.html). Done!
2). Did I drink or do drugs? Uh, NO.
3). Was I under any unmanageable stress recently? Not really any more than usual.
4). Had I lifted anything heavy in the past few days? Absolutely not.
5). Had any of my blood or urine tests throughout my pregnancy come back abnormal? No, everything was right down the middle boring and perfect.
6). Had I ever had high blood pressure in my pregnancy? No, in fact it was always shockingly low.
And for a day or two it’s not so bad. But when you’re contracting and worried about the baby, plus you’re shaped like a whale and no matter what you can’t get comfortable, bed rest isn’t all that fun. Throw in heartburn and some major nesting hormones and you’ve got yourself one tough time. So here are some helpful tips to make it less miserable:
1). Accept help. If you’re like me, asking for help is hard. Watching someone clean your house while you lay on the couch is even harder. But it’s worth it and it makes a difference. You’re stuck inside the house so it might as well be clean and not annoy you. And trust me, your friends and family feel helpless and want to do something for you. Have them make friends with your vacuum.
2). Have a small routine. Washing my face, brushing my teeth, putting lotion on and combing my hair were vital to my survival. I needed to feel like my day was starting, as opposed to running as a stream with no real distinction from morning, noon and night.
3). If you hadn’t already, find a community online of other preggos due around the time you are. And if you can track down another mama on bed rest then that’s hitting the jack pot. Crazily enough I found a woman who was on bed rest the same time I was and we became fast friends–we still chat to this day. We hope our sons are able to meet each other one day and compare NICU stories! (And she and I will share a much needed drink).
4). Do mini-projects. I pre-addressed all of our thank you notes and birth announcements. I blogged like crazy. I had the best home mani/pedi that you could ever hope to see. Read those books you’ve been dying to get to. Have an 80′s movie marathon. Scrapbook. Knit. Keep busy mentally. Solitaire on your phone or computer will become your friend.
5). Remember what’s really important: a healthy you and a healthy baby. The cleaning and the nursery and the painting are all secondary. I had to remind myself that a few times, and that’s okay too.
In the end I was able to cook the little bugger for an extra month, and my son was born healthy and robust 5 weeks early on March 3rd 2008 and weighed in at a whopping 6 lbs 8.5 ounces. The nurses said that if I had gone full-term he would have been around 10-11 pounds. Yowzas. I guess things happen for a reason!
I'm not sure how many times I've read or heard this story, but each time, I am still engrossed. Good job Sam!
P.S. I'm the friend that gave her the 411 on the Braxton Hicks!
Great post–I'm mom to a 25 weeker preemie who spent the first 3 months of her life fighting to live and now she is 4–I had a perfectly normal pregnancy but was a high risk(miscarried 5 times–two of those after the 1st trimester) but was not on bedrest, had a perfect dr appt just one week before I delivered. The cause PROM(premature rupture of membranes) and an infection—not sure which came first but regardless- your advice is great–take all the help you can get, rest, call the dr–go to the er if something doesn't feel right–don't chance it-
Great information for preggo moms! Thanks for sharing it!
i can not suggest http://www.keepemcookin.com enough for bedrest moms. anggela there saved my sanity while i spent weeks on bedrest this time around due to preterm symptoms and passing out.
you can also check her out on twitter http://twitter.com/keepemcookin
Finding an online community makes such a difference. We have http://www.shareyourstory.org and I second the opinion about http://www.keepemcookin.com
I am a mother to a 30 weeker, Rowan my Miracle Bebe. I came across your blog and wanted you to check out mine at http://miraclebebes.blogspot.com
I also have a very large collection (and growing) of preemie scrapbooking on my website at http://www.miraclebebe.com
Stop by, we would love to have you in our community.
Of course, your story would be a wonderful addition to our Preemie Journeys Pages. Email me if you would like to share.
Hope all is well.
Jessica
Your information is very accurate and helpful. Thanks!
As a mom to 3 premature babies, each at 28, 30 and 32 weeks, I know all about the bed rest, hospitals, meds and everything else that goes with it. I always loved the part about "stress" like what was happening wasn't stressful enough! LOL
My children are now 21, 17 and 16 and are as they've always been a blessing.
When my middle child was born, they said he would be about the size of a cornish game hen – UMMMMM NOPE! kiddo came out weighting in at 6lb and 21 inches long at 30 weeks!!! I too would have had a big ol fella to deal with had he gone to term.
Like you, I could rock the couch and this was long before laptops – I read and read and read some more. Magazines, newspapers, books you name it I read it. Wish laptops were around then!
Blessings to you and yours!
What a great post, I learned a lot, I had my daughter 2 weeks early, but not by choice I was induced because of high blood pressure, I will never do that again.
Thank you everyone for your comments! I'm glad this helped–I wish I had posts like this to read when I was stuck on the couch.
I'm happy that all our preemie babies are doing well which was the main goal.
Feel free to contact me with any other questions or comments–I love hearing from you!
–Samantha at Back To Me