So on my way to work this morning I heard about a website called SeekingArrangement.com. In NO way an I endorsing this site or getting paid to write this because to be honest it appears to be WAY creepy and a lot gross.
An MIT graduate came up with the idea of an online dating service that aims to connect older, wealthy “sugar daddies” with younger, attractive “sugar babies” looking to be pampered in exchange for some affection.
The boom in membership was so high among female students that the website last month released a national ranking of the top 20 colleges and universities whose students joined the website in 2011. Temple was No. 5. Wade started the website started in 2005, said that the sugar babies usually join in search of a more luxurious lifestyle. Now, the website is being invaded by more pragmatic college students – women, and some guys, looking for a benefactor to pay their student loans, provide start-up capital for their businesses or help them land jobs.
We live close to Philly so hearing Temple was No. 5 was a little disturbing. This service costs men $50 a month and can upgrade to a premium service for $2,400 per year. Really men need to pay $2,400 a year to find a women or college age girl. Pathetic in my opinion.
Each woman’s account requires some basic information (name, location, age) and one piece that’s a little more personal: how much money she expects to receive per date. Prices range from less than $1,000 to more than $20,000. Some women, like Paula, label themselves as being “open for negotiation.”
Trust me I totally understand college is expensive and times are hard but is this kind of service really necessary? I am assuming yes since so many people use it but my opinion is no. Women are getting between 1k – 20k per date. I know they are claiming this site is legal but it seems very close to prostitution if you ask me.
Maybe I am jealous because I am a man but for the last twenty years women always saying they want to be equal with men but then they utilize services like this. Don’t get me wrong these men are nasty pigs who need to date people their own age or date at least for love and NOT for the possibility of sex in exchange for money.
Before people get all up in arms I am not saying all women are utilizing these serivces and I am not saying that the ones who do are any less of a women but I am saying there has to be a better, safer way than this.
AGAIN THIS IS MY OPINION AND IN NO WAY AM I BACKING OR ENDORSING THIS WEBSITE!!!!!!!!
I have heard of this – it was covered on the news once. I do think it’s different for sure. I am one to say “to each their own” but I just don’t know what type of person is it that wants to hook up with much older men for money or a sort of living lifestyle? It’s sort of like teaching college students/young people that it’s best to take the easy way into money rather than work for your own. Maybe I am blowing that out of proportion but that’s how I feel.
I totally agree with you. Young adults are looking for the easiest way to pay for life and it makes no sense to me.
Maybe it’s due to the lack in household responsibilities? IDK … I know in my house I am a very, very laid back parent BUT all three of my kids, yes even the 3 yr old, help us keep the house moving. We all have our part to help clean and organize, parents + kids work to keep our home “lived in” but clean. My DD is 9, she used to have a cell for contact with her Dad but when I got a house phone line in, I took cell away and shut off the line. She wants a new cell, well now I don’t see why she “needs” one when we have a house phone, but I always tell her if she wants something badly, like her request for a cell or her American Girl Doll with clothes, then she needs to make sure she is listening when asked to take care of her clothes, helping with taking care of dishes and such – if she pulls her weight around here helping out – then we will see what she has earned for a gift. I think it’s important, I would be so sad if my kids ever thought this was okay to participate in during their early adult years.
I’ve heard of a few sites like this… a candy-coated escort service in my opinion.
I am betting a lot of these girls would not actually go through with dates, once some lusty old dude is actually trying to book them…. at least I hope many of them would back out.
You would hope but if they are paying between 1k – 20k that is A LOT of cash.
Just goes to show you “the love of money…” Very sad!
So true and so sad
I think it’s sad, but not creepy. But, it puts people in front of the ones who are receptive to what they’re looking for. There are websites for white women and black men, or black women and white men, or women looking for women, etc. I don’t think this is any different except to an outside (like me), it looks sad and desperate. But online dating to some people I know looks sad and desperate LOL!
Maybe you are right but money is exchanging hands and I think that is what bothers me most plus I have a daughter 2 years away from college and I would never want her to act like this.
Sounds like prostitution to me, too. Ick
ICK is right. This whole thing is so hard for me to wrap my head around.
I agree. It sounds like prostitution!
Not if you ask the creator of the website. He tries to explain how it isn’t but it sounds like BS to me. LOL.
This is obviously prostitution. Disgusting.
I agree. They are trying to spin it like that is not the case but anyone who reads this can see right through the BS.
Ugh I have several issues with this…one being that it sounds like an escort (or prostitution) service. You are right – can that be legal?
Second – since their primary customers are college aged women, I imagine they dream of just finding a rich guy to take care of them, possibly quit college …and when he leaves, they are stuck with no education.
I can only imagine the creepers that utilize this site. Blech.
Never thought much about your second point but I can see how that is definitely a possibility and scary.
This makes me so profoundly sad. The impact it will have on these girls is horrible. Sites like this just shouldn’t exist and the creators should be ashamed of themselves.
I couldn’t agree with you more
This is pretty depressing. What is even MORE depressing is that I can understand (but certainly don’t condone, because it’s horrific) considering this if you’re staring a six-figure loan burden (that’s what professional school students end up incurring these days) in the face, particularly in an economy where an education no longer necessarily gives you a shot at a middle class life. I can’t imagine how hard it must be to be a young adult these days. So I guess what I am horrified about is the fact that this is really a sign of the times (both economically and, yes, morally).
You are probably right but it is just very sad
Hmmm.. Sounds weird to me, but like Brandy said, to each their own.
I agree to each their own but it still really disturbed me and that is probably because my daughter is two years away from college.
I watched a True Life episode on something similar. Girls were getting rent paid and other material goods in exchange for a sugar daddy. In the end, the sugar daddy wanted something on their end of the deal, if you get my drift. The girls were disgusted that the sugar daddies said they wanted something in exchange for the money. What did they expect was going to happen?!
I agree, it’s nothing short of prostitution.
people just dont love one another anymore thats whats wrong with this world !!!
This Is What Is Wrong With Society!!!! kids think they should have everything handed to them without giving alittle kids now days dont have any respect like we did when i was growing up!!