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I Miss Her

March 18, 2011 by

In a couple short weeks it’ll be the 2 year anniversary of my Mom-Mom’s sudden passing. I think about her often; there’s no way to avoid it since she’s everywhere in our home. I never realized how much I surrounded us with her presence till I really opened my eyes.

mom-mom's sewing kit now sits in my bedroom next to my vanity. for as long as I can remember it sat next to her chair in the family room.

 

my charm bracelet with a 4-leaf clover to represent mom-mom's Irish heritage

the pillowcases and hankies she embroidered. there is a set for each kid when they grow up and move away

mom-mom's rosary, she kept it in her purse all the time, it hangs on my vanity all the time

my throw that she crocheted, this sits on our bed every day.

 

her apron may be ugly and a weird plastic/vinyl but she used it all the time, the neck strap even still smells like her.

I know there are things in the house that are missing from the pictures above; like her grandmothers ring thats in my jewelry box, framed pictures of her, the blankets she made for the kids and a mommy necklace with mom-mom stamped on it.

I know she’s in a much better place right now. Her last couple days weren’t how she wanted to live life. She was active, she had friends, she had plans, she was on the go. Due to someone elses mistake all that was taken away. I never got to say goodbye. I never got to tell her how much I loved her one last time.

Our last visit with her was great though. I planned an impromptu post-Christmas get-together with my sister and brother, parents and uncle and of course the kids.  She was in her glory; her kids and grandkids and great grandkids were all together right in front of her.  I miss her very much.

 

 

I Disclose




I’ll Miss You

February 11, 2011 by

A good friend of my parents as well as mine passed this week at the age of around 67. He was on the list to receive a liver but never made it.

This saddens me greatly because he took me under his wing when I was growing up. When I was about 13-14 years old I use to go to work with him over the summer. He was a truck driver who hauled steel locally and owed his own rig. He taught me responsibility and how to be a man when I wasn’t exactly the nicest kid to be around.  Even as I grew up and had a family we would still see each other at my parents church and he got to meet and get to know Melinda and our kids. 

He was a funny man and was always busting my balls while we were on the road.  He taught me a lot of stuff about life while on the road and I am going to miss him.

I love you George! Rest In Peace!

Tonight at 6pm is the viewing and the memorial service isright after at 8pm.  Tonight is going to be tough. 




Are We Really Friends

January 6, 2011 by

On Christmas day a UK woman, Simone Back, announced her suicide plan on Facebook and no one stepped in to help. “Took all my pills, bye bye”, that was a message 1048 friends saw; a handful made comments, called her a liar and pretty much called her bluff. Only this time it wasn’t a bluff. Simone was found dead later that day. Her mother asked Simone’s Facebook friends to now leave her alone.
With the technology we have today you would think that a cry for help wouldn’t go unanswered. Facebook status updates go unread all the time but this one was read and ridiculed and chastised. Our social reach goes far beyond our physical abilities. I have friends in Hawaii that I’ve never met and family in Georgia that I haven’t seen in many years. But I was able to share holiday memories, birthday wishes and pictures of the kids with them both. Having this vast network of “friends” all over doesn’t really mean you have friends though. A lot of these friends are just numbers for your games, blogs, fanbase or cause. I’m guilty of this since I ask for a Facebook like or Twitter follow as giveaway entries. Does this mean all of those people are my friends; no. But I can say that I appreciate the effort to help build LookWhatMomFound…and Dad too! and love reading comments and updates and messages from everyone I’ve friended and liked or followed. I would hope that if I was down, depressed, excited, sad, happy or bored my online friends as well as my real life would be there to support or cheer me on.
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What’s Heaven-a book and discussion

April 3, 2009 by

What do you say to young ones when someone close has passed away? How do you explain heaven? How do you explain death?
This book is a touching story of Maria Shriver explaining all of these things to her children when they lost their grandmother Rose Kennedy many years ago.

“Heaven isn’t a place you see,” she explained. “It’s somewhere you believe in.”

The story approaches topics like funerals and the death of pets and distinguishing between body and soul. These are great beginnings to further conversations with your own children. The explanation of heaven is lovely and delicate it isn’t over the top with descriptions of pearly gates and harps and golden statues. It delivers a vision of peace and comfort that a child may comprehend without fear.

This beautiful and touching book, What’s Heaven was written by Maria Shriver and illustrated by Sandra Speidel. I recommend it even if you haven’t lost anyone. I’m not sure what my reason was for buying this several years ago but it is going to be helpful today.

Death has put its hand on our family this week. My grandmother, Mom Mom passed away very suddenly yesterday afternoon so I will be scarce for a couple days as we handle some details and arrange services. We’ve explained her death to the children but this should be a little more comforting.
Here is my Uncle Mickey and my father (right) with Mom-Mom.

Here is Mom Mom holding Shae for the first time she’s less than 2 weeks old.